Just had a phone call with a dear friend I've been speaking to almost daily. And she said what I told her helped, so I thought I might say some of it in case it helps other people too.
If you're already a trauma survivor, you might be watching the previously-strong people in your life in the early stages of trauma and it's hard to see them struggling in ways to recognize.
You can compartmentalize to an extent, to keep doing "normal" work, caregiving, etc...but it's EXHAUSTING to do that.
A lot of us are used to minimizing our own problems, pressing on with our responsibilities, and ignoring our emotions, but that's not going to get us through this. We have to practice skills that don't come easy to my fellow Midwesterners or my fellow Brits. We may not be running marathons these days but the sooner we recognize we're doing the mental and emotional equivalent every day, the sooner we can develop some compassion for ourselves that's probably much-needed.
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