misgendering, transphobia 

A cis guy gets a small taste of the trans experience

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LB is no surprise to me; for years when I thought I was cis my twitter profile included "she/her". TERFs I argued with would find excuses to call me "he," say I was an "ugly man," claim I was pretending to be a lesbian (as someone with mostly male romantic and sexual partners, that always made me laugh; I'm the worst fucking lesbian)... All conclusions they jumped to based on nothing more than the presence of pronouns

Cis people, sharing your pronouns is that powerful. It drains power from them

@error_1202 I was literally thinking yesterday about how terfs claim that people can’t change their gender, yet they decide that anyone who disagrees with them is a man

@dreadpirateyarr Yeah I hardly go on twitter at all any more but when I do I've noticed the unexpectedly funny thing about me being fine with any pronouns, or "he" being my favorite these days, which is that they really don't know how to misgender me even though they clearly try really hard! They really want to!

@error_1202 I've had terfs assume I was a trans woman by the fact that I was vocal against transphobia. Which is hilarious, like imagine being so selfish that you can't imagine caring about people who are different than you are smh. Then again terfs, at least in Korea, often make their selfishness a point of pride and brag about how they don't care about immigrant women or queer people. They're disgusting.

@ljwrites Yep, not just non-conforming otherwise-normative white cis women are harmed by TERF rhetoric but especially disabled women, BIPOC women...being in any way "deviant" makes women less good at performing womanhood to TERF standards. But TERFs are fine with that collateral damage, they don't really care about "women" at all.

Thus a concept like "virtue signaling" maps scarily well onto "I can't imagine anyone advocating for a group they're not in, because I wouldn't."

@error_1202 @ljwrites When I've had more gender-neutral avatar images and talked mostly about science, people would always just assume I was a white guy. But the moment I posted about feminism, everyone just assumed I was a cis woman. If I spoke out about trans rights, the TERFs started showing up. If I talked about Black Lives Matter, racists would appear. Keeping a neutral presentation was... interesting.

Bigots just don't believe it's possible to care about people who aren't like them.

@InvaderXan @error_1202 @ljwrites had a similar experience.

Lately I've been thinking it's not worth engaging on topics like that even if I care deeply. All it ever seems to do is make me sad

@fluffy @error_1202 @ljwrites Perfectly understandable. Also, sadly, exactly the kind of depressing result the bigots want. They want us all to stop caring about other people.

If you can't manage something, then you shouldn't. We all have to take care of ourselves and we all have limited spoons. But personally, as long as I have the energy to do so, I'll never consider it not worth standing up for others.

@fluffy @error_1202 @ljwrites
(That said, I do not always have the energy to do so, especially recently)

antiblack racism, uspol 

@InvaderXan @error_1202 "Bigots just don't believe it's possible to care about people who aren't like them."

👆 And that's the essence of what makes them bigots.

That reminds me, back when I showed my real face on the internet, Some White would show up whenever I commented on racism to inform me that Black people hated me because I was Asian so I shouldn't speak up for them. I hope every single one of those patronizing racists is crying right now over the election results and is otherwise having a terrible life 😘

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