If you find it painful when people complain about or criticize your oppression or harmful behaviors / indifference to oppression or harmful behaviors, good.
That pain means that the criticism is working, and it is your signal to engage in introspection. No, complaining about the discomfort won't make it stop. Only internal change will do that.
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