Mx Stef Bentley @nicepersonality@mspsocial.net

#Introduction:

Hi! I’m Stef, a #Queer ¹ #WebDesigner ² in #Minneapolis. You might also know me by my #RollerDerby ³ name, Hüsker Stü. I use they/them/their pronouns.

Hope to connect with more #DerbyTwitter expats, #Feminist & #Antifascist #BlackMetal ⁴ fans, #TwinCities residents, #HighEdWeb folks, #MeFi -tes, and #CVG types.
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¹ #NonBinary #Trans #HRT #Bi #Pan #GrayAce
² #HTML #CSS #FrontEnd #WebStandards #a11y
³ #MNRG, ex- #NSRD #MMRD
⁴ #AtmosphericBlackMetal #USBM #RABM #BlackenedDoomMetal

I came here to procrastinate and chew bubble gum, and I haven’t even opened the bubble gum.

I found this article earlier this year: https://transsubstantiation.com/on-being-uber-gay-ad360448e170

“81% of trans women identify as queer in the broad sense of the term. Eighty. One. Percent.”

I had *no idea*.

I legit started crying at my desk at work after reading it, because it was the first time I could truly believe I was .

It’s kind of wild just how damaging the One True Transsexual Narrative (the one doctors demanded to hear, correct in every detail, before they would deign to provide care) has proved to be.

I came *so close* to figuring myself out in college in the late ’90s, but since I “knew” I didn’t “really qualify” as trans, I squelched it down for another twenty years of depression.

I’m on a queer slack workspace, and last night there was a conversation where about a dozen of us trans-feminine ppl realized that we’d all thought of ourselves as “lesbian trapped in a man’s body, ha ha…ha…” over a decade before our eggs cracked. None of us knew that this was a thing for other folx too 🤯

I was tempted to just post a nip pic on Tumblr to see if they’d clock me, but decided it was easier to just delete my account.

I feel for the folks who invested more time and creativity there than I did, though.

I’ve got that one Decemberists song stuck in my head—you know, the one that really, really wants to be a Matthew Sweet song instead?

It’s another beautiful #FineFutchFriday, and I’m celebrating with my favorite sweater. (Just between us, the sweater is acrylic; the “wood” and “leather” are also plastic; and it will probably fall apart within another season, but for now, it’s my favorite.) https://mspsocial.net/media/EBz8OVV9_FcwwhWYLw4